The way I see it, this is just attacking the word when in fact the important thing is the thought
You see it wrong. I, too, at one point tried to justify my use of the n word. I was honest with my justification when I would say that I was using the word only in a joking manner. However, I thought to myself, "is using a taboo in a joking manner more important to me than potentially offending someone?" I came up with the conclusion that it was in the best of my interests as a person trying to put the immature ways behind. Maybe I still use the word jokingly sometimes, but I know I try my best not to.
Now, as to why I said you see it wrong. It's not the word that's being attacked here, but that the offensive connotation behind the word is being hidden, which is a good thing.
Also, on an internet forum, and in person, it's almost impossible for one person to recognize what the THOUGHT behind the word is, especially if you're watching out for the bystanders (the casual readers of the site who don't post often) if when it's used as an inside joke.
so what I'm saying is - isn't engaging in a debate and sharing thoughts more constructives than just covering up problems so you can have a comfortable bubble to live in?
You think having a constructive discussion on the use of the word will lead to............what?
The word will lose its negative connotation?
What is the end result you seek? You think if the word is left uncensored, people will stop using it?
We've had tons of debates on the use of the word in the past. I don't think the debates shouldn't have happened as it was good that they did, but it's impossible to come to the conclusion that it's OK to use the word, unless it's written in an "academic" fashion.
This situation is awfully close to conservatives trying to censor rap when in fact the violence in rap is happening in real life.
According to Caesar, an African-American sent him a message saying he was offended by Da_Funk's use of it.
Is that not indirect racism?
The bottom line is, you don't gain anything and you don't lose anything, by having the word being censored. You're rebelling because you think you have an intellectual reason to, but there is no benefit to having the word uncensored.
Now you would probably say, "Well, what IF this and this was banned in real life, I wouldn't lose anything, but what about the consequences, the dangerous precedents...bla bla?" to which I would respond "find a real cause, join the ACLU or something".