What would you do when a friend breaks your trust?

[Amara]

Seriously what would you do?



Go nuts, get angry, yell?

Get vengeful, fuck them up, break their trust in return?

Let karma take care of them, vow never to trust their disloyal arse again?

Forgive and forget, hope it wont happen again?





I'd appreciate as many responses as possible. Thanks.

 

[k69atie]

it depended on what she did?

if she went with an ex then i'd fall out with her, unless she asked me first.

 

[Beautiful Angel]

all depends on what she did.....i've lost alot of friends over trust and to me if you can't trust them and they can't respect you, you shouldn't be friends anyway!

 

[k69atie]

very true kellie :thumb:

 

[kimbo_thug]

Me n my "best friend" fell out bad n we ended up fighting
after trustin some one so much then they shit on ya ya dont trust any body serious it fucks ya up !!

"its easier to forgive a enineme than to forgive a friend"

 

[_carmi]

all depends on what they did. but usually im gonna get pissed at them or i just dont talk to them anymore.

most recent example i have is this friend of mine who tried and tried and tried behind my back to hook up with my bf. my bf told me and now i dont talk to that girl anymore and its been 6 months or more i have never seen her again when before i'd see her once a week. screw her. my life is fine without her.

 

[Amara]

Quite simply and without detail, she did something I had quite reasonably asked not to .... probably thought I wouldnt find out. I basically only asked for some respect and got none.

I'm not a vengeful person, this is not so major that I wont forgive. Still it just sucks. I guess I should be more guarded with people though. BA - you're right, if this is how they wanna do things, they dont deserve my friendship and all the things that have come with that.

I just have to find a way to let her know that I wont take this shit.

 

[ArtsyGirl]

I've learned through my years that you dont tell your friends, no matter how close, things you dont want other people to know. If I tell someone something I'm willing to deal with what comes from that. If I notice a friend is using me or disrespecting me I'll stop associating myself with that person. I'd prefer to have less friends who are true rather than a bunch who will backstab.

 

[Katarina]

Call her and yell at her, making sure I get my point across and then just stop talking to her.

 

[Synful*Luv]

Give her some space, this way she knows that you're mad. Don't still talk to her like everything is okay. After you wait until you don't feel so angry with her anymore, then go ahead and call her and talk about why you were upset with her.

Depends on what she did, you might be able to forgive her, but I still wouldn't forget. Many times, no matter how close we "think" we are to someone, we might be the only ones close to them, while the other person doesn't feel the same towards you.

So, yeah, maybe forgive her, but NEVER forget what happened, because if you let your guard down, it might happen again.

 

[Amara]

Call her and yell at her, making sure I get my point across and then just stop talking to her.

Haha, you're my kinda girl.

Many times, no matter how close we "think" we are to someone, we might be the only ones close to them, while the other person doesn't feel the same towards you.

Yes thats a thought. Her personality might be false. Clearly it is wrong for me to consider anyone who would be so blatantly disrespectful of my privacy to have ever been a friend in the first place. They mustnt think much of me at all.

Sure makes me feel like a dick for reaching out to them, and helping them.

 

[Synful*Luv]

NO, don't feel bad, you shouldn't feel bad at all. That just shows your strength as a good person, and her weakness as a not so nice person.

The problem is, we get recognition when we act like jerks, but we don't get it when we act humane, or treat people how one should treat another human being.

This has happened to me several times before, where I'm nice to people and they take advantage of that, mistake it for weakness or whatever, and I end up getting hurt.

But, I think it all pays off in the long run. Like yeah, this girl betrayed me today, but I got a raise a work. I think God, or a higher power, or Karma, or whatever one believes in has a way of making sure everything works out in the end for you. Maybe not when or where or how you want it to, but it still works out.

 

[keco52]

Every female friend I ever had...broke my trust...which is why I don't have ANY female friends now. They've stolen from me, gossip/lie, u name it they did it.

But when they did this I cut all ties completely. No need to argue or blame just cut off the relationship. I don't need ppl in my life who can't respect me.

I pride myself on loyalty...and I demand the same in return.

 

[Amara]

So should I ask for an apology or explanation (if there is one)?

 

[k69atie]

I think you should

 

[Beautiful Angel]

i would at least ask for an explanation and from there make your decision

 

[Helena]

of course you should. i'd demand an explanation. if she apologises, and if i thought she meant it, i'd let it go. i wouldn't break off the friendship because of one mistake. however, if it she disrespected me again. i would tell her to fuck off definitley.

 

[Amara]

Ok, in that case I would like to ask the person who disclosed information about my break-up despite the general rule of 'what's said in here stays in here' and my having asked people to respect my privacy in that matter when I spoke of it, why they felt the need to talk about it with other people?

I find it sadly ironic that just as I thought I could trust you, the people you told couldn't be trusted either. But I'm glad that at least one person was loyal enough to indicate to me what was happening.

That was one thing I was always discreet about in discussing on the board. You all knew that. I didnt want everyone talking about it or knowing details coz it wasnt their business. I only spoke to you all because I trusted you and considered you friends.

I just hope that I am the only one who has been treated this way and other people havent been similarly disrespected. Coz if I hear of it happening again, then I wont hesistate to take action.

 

[_carmi]

uh? who said that to who? that sucks.

 

[k69atie]

that does suck, i wonder who it was?