Yesterday, I went to a local convenient store where I always buy my beer. I always get a 28pk of Labatt Blue Light because it's cheap there. Well, needless to say, you could tell that college was back in session in my hometown because the beer cooler was fucking demolished - hardly anything left. So I'm pissed looking for another kind of beer because my kind is all gone and this hot brunette walks up to the cooler and eyeballs a 28pk of Molson light. Then she says, (to no one in particular although it's just me and her standing there) "oh my god, i can't carry that." So i turn away from her a second and think to myself, "i'm not going to be the idiot who brings this beer up to the counter for her" and then two seconds later i'm like "who am i kidding? Of course I am" So i'm like, do you need help with that? And she says, oh yes, thank you" So i pick it up and walk it over to the counter and on my way back I notice she's trying to lift a 28 pk of Labatt Blue out of the cooler so I help her out with that too and she was all happy and shit. So then I finally pick out the beer that i want and get behind her in line. And i'm thinking to myself, this shit isn't over yet. I'm gonna get stuck carrying this shit out to her fucking car. Sure enough, she pays for it and then looks up at me with eyes like "can you take this to my car, pretty please" and so i ended up doing that too. So i'm telling my friend at work this story and i'm like, I don't know why, but whenever i do something nice for an ugly girl I always feel like I'm being a nice person. But whenever I do something nice for a hot girl I feel like I'm just being a sucker. Anybody relate?
Being nice or being used?
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you were just being nice
You probably think an ugly girl should feel grateful you helped her because being ugly is somehow a disability...
You're secretly thinking the hot chick thinks she deserves to be helped therefore you don't want to because it's expected..and if it's expected you don't want to because that means you're not appreciated
I'm kinda tipsy...so I d.k. if that makes sense
You probably think an ugly girl should feel grateful you helped her because being ugly is somehow a disability...
You're secretly thinking the hot chick thinks she deserves to be helped therefore you don't want to because it's expected..and if it's expected you don't want to because that means you're not appreciated
I'm kinda tipsy...so I d.k. if that makes sense
ya i can relate to what ure saying dawg!
look there's a way to do it where u can help her and not feel stupid!
what u do is .. if she asks for ur help .. u have to just take charge of the situation .. and say something like.." ya u definately need a hand with that " or "sure..it will cost u 400 bucks though.." then say that ure kidding ..and that ull take em to her car " and when she says thank you .. .you say " glad to be of service .. u take care now" .. this way u dont show that ure just a shy guy who's being taken advantage off.. instead u appear as someone who helped her cause u wanted to help her.. not because she told u to help her! or just view the hot girl in the same light u view the ugly one
look there's a way to do it where u can help her and not feel stupid!
what u do is .. if she asks for ur help .. u have to just take charge of the situation .. and say something like.." ya u definately need a hand with that " or "sure..it will cost u 400 bucks though.." then say that ure kidding ..and that ull take em to her car " and when she says thank you .. .you say " glad to be of service .. u take care now" .. this way u dont show that ure just a shy guy who's being taken advantage off.. instead u appear as someone who helped her cause u wanted to help her.. not because she told u to help her! or just view the hot girl in the same light u view the ugly one
You think you're feeling like a sucker because you put hot girls on a pedestal. You think they perceive you as a sucker and maybe deep inside, you even feel inferior to them.
I don't put hot girls on a higher pedestal than really unattractive girls. The only difference is, I will not have sex with the unattractive ones, but that's it.
Also, just as guys can sense when a girl is giving into them, girls can too and they will take advantage. Now, it's hard to see whether the girl thought to herself "look at this sucker, i'm making him carry my shit" or "oh, he's so nice, good to see there are good men to help".
I was in a similar situation. I was in a semi-party setting a couple of weeks ago and this younger girl (who is a proven slut actually, but we never met) asks me to pour her a Pepsi drink into a cup because she had a cig in one hand and said "I can't do it". At this moment, my senses kicked in. I thought to myself, "It's not a problem to do so, I'm nice, but does she seem like the type of girl who will appreciate this or will she just see me as a sucker who's bowing to her needs?" Mind you, those suckers never get head from girls like this. I thought it was the latter and said "now why would I do that, you're capable of doing it yourself." She didn't say a word.
Two days later, I see her again and she comes up to me "hey, I saw you the other day, what's your name bla bla" trying to be nice.
In the end, it's all about demeanor. You have to put yourself out there as a guy who's not to be taken advantage of, but not to the point where you look like a straight up asshole.
I don't put hot girls on a higher pedestal than really unattractive girls. The only difference is, I will not have sex with the unattractive ones, but that's it.
Also, just as guys can sense when a girl is giving into them, girls can too and they will take advantage. Now, it's hard to see whether the girl thought to herself "look at this sucker, i'm making him carry my shit" or "oh, he's so nice, good to see there are good men to help".
I was in a similar situation. I was in a semi-party setting a couple of weeks ago and this younger girl (who is a proven slut actually, but we never met) asks me to pour her a Pepsi drink into a cup because she had a cig in one hand and said "I can't do it". At this moment, my senses kicked in. I thought to myself, "It's not a problem to do so, I'm nice, but does she seem like the type of girl who will appreciate this or will she just see me as a sucker who's bowing to her needs?" Mind you, those suckers never get head from girls like this. I thought it was the latter and said "now why would I do that, you're capable of doing it yourself." She didn't say a word.
Two days later, I see her again and she comes up to me "hey, I saw you the other day, what's your name bla bla" trying to be nice.
In the end, it's all about demeanor. You have to put yourself out there as a guy who's not to be taken advantage of, but not to the point where you look like a straight up asshole.
I usually help people out in these situations without thinking about it, because that's just my personality. I try to live my life based around selfless deeds and good karma.
But it is very possible to do so without giving off the impression that I'm the kind of person that would just do what they want. Like SOFI said, it's all about demeanor. I've never had anyone think I'm a sucker for helping them, or even been concerned that they might think that. I know they won't based on how I comes across.
But it is very possible to do so without giving off the impression that I'm the kind of person that would just do what they want. Like SOFI said, it's all about demeanor. I've never had anyone think I'm a sucker for helping them, or even been concerned that they might think that. I know they won't based on how I comes across.
Well no, that first part is not true. I'm not shallow. However, I think you're dead on about the "secretly thinking the hot chick thinks she deserves to be helped"
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