Must You Be "Hard" All the Time?

[ImmortalTech]

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.... actually that is the word I'm looking for. So before u go off trying to be an intelectual, why dont u open ur eyes and look at the fuckin world around u, and also be careful before you go off and make bold statements such as "move away from urban and black areas and you'll find guys who don't act hard."

You cannot discard the connection between rap music and black and urban youth leading to bravado or "acting hard". It's not about "all".

if u havent noticed rap music is also followed in white suburban communities, just as much as "the ghetto".. And I'm not disgarding that connection, all I'm saying is that connection existsin suburbs too.

Why do rich people move to the suburbs? Because there's less crime and less problems, for starters.

I never said there's less crime. I said there's more ppl 'acting' hard in suburbs. Crime is a statistic that can be measured, whereas 'acting hard' relies on ones perception of what 'acting hard' is, and in my personal experience, I've seen more ppl 'act hard' in suburban areas than in actual rough neighborhoods.

But, I would say that in the contemporary scheme of things, urban youth who listen to rap music are most likely to "act hard" than suburban youth who listen to alternative.

way to overgeneralize things. I cant state this as a fact, but in general, aren't most rap records consumed by suburban youth? Not saying they listen to more rap, but they have money to purchase more albums. The rap industry exist in its size and popularity today because suburban youth are infatuated with the culture and are basically keeping the rap industry in business. But all thats another arguement.

Seriously though, not too many ppl 'act' hard in rough areas, they know they get fucked up if they step outta line. Most ppl mind their own business. But maybe the areas i've lived in and visited are just weird. Just outta curiousity, how long have u lived in an urban/black community as opposed to a suburb?

 

[Synful*Luv]

Syn good job ignoring what I said, good girl

Probably didn't read it. What did you say? Maybe it'll be important this time around.

Look at you, I don't care what you call him.. a thug.. a gangsta.. a hardass... your ex-boyfriend is exactly the type of guy we're describing.

He wasn't. That's the thing. Kid was a pussy. Still is. He didn't try to act "hard" ever. He avoided situations that might lead to a situation that might lead to confrontation.

 

[Synful*Luv]

Man, honestly i been around those guys all my life... and a certain point in my life i was like that. But I grew out of it. And for real, Guys that must be "hard" all the time, are usually the guys that arent hard at all. From personal experience, the heardest dudes i ever met in my life are also some of the realest, and down to earth guys. And no they dont act hard all the time. Most ppl act hard all the time to intimidate people, so they wont ever have to scrap for real.

I dont respect bad ass dudes anymore. I think they're stupid. I respect guys that are real men. They dont feel th need to mean mug everybody that walks by. They dont feel the need to brag about anything negative they've done. They dont feel the need to talk shit. They can mantain their composure, when somebody talks shit without a purpose. But if anybody dare hurt who they consider their family & friends, thats when they dont bother 'acting' hard, but show without talking what they're really capable of. Real men can take care of their loved ones, without being pussies.

.. and for real, alot of this acting hard thing also stems from girls being infatuated by it. Not all girls, just some of em. Personally I've had enough of those girls, and prefer a woman, that wants me to be a man, and protect whats mine and stand up for what i believe in.

:thumb::thumb:

Very good post.

Seriously though, not too many ppl 'act' hard in rough areas, they know they get fucked up if they step outta line. Most ppl mind their own business. But maybe the areas i've lived in and visited are just weird.

I agree, I've lived in a lot of "urban" or "inner city" areas and the people there don't need to act hard because for the most part they usually are hard. It's an unspoken rule to mind your own damn business in those types of areas. Not only that but the people in the "hood" who do act hard usually end up getting shut up really fast by someone. I think that statement is true, at least from my experiences.

 

[Tru Principle]

I fart big shit

 

[SicC]

Probably didn't read it. What did you say? Maybe it'll be important this time around.





He wasn't. That's the thing. Kid was a pussy. Still is. He didn't try to act "hard" ever. He avoided situations that might lead to a situation that might lead to confrontation.

why are u considered a pussy if you try and avoid confrontation?

pz

 

[Synful*Luv]

why are u considered a pussy if you try and avoid confrontation?

pz

I meant that he tried to avoid confrontation that wasn't even there.

He'd say "let's cross the street" when our car would be on the side of the street that we were walking on. Or "let's not go to that store right now" if he saw any guys standing in front of the store with like urban attire on or something. If you can't go to a store because you're scared of people who aren't thinking about you or you have to cross the street for no reason...you're a pussy.

 

[SicC]

I suppose.

pz

 

[hizzle?]

I agree with you, i'm tired of wannabes who wanna act hard and want to be "thugs".

I don't know what's this mania of acting as a "gangsta".

I'm tired of it and I hope that all people who act hard die of aids.

 

[Flipmo]

How did Asians become thuggish all of a sudden.. I see more and more of them.

 

[ImmortalTech]

How did Asians become thuggish all of a sudden.. I see more and more of them.

if u mean thug, as in gangster.. theres been asian gangsters in existence before the existence of North America as we know it today.

if u mean thuggish as ppl in into hiphop and rap... they've been around as long as i've been old enough to know what rap is, and i'm sure they were around before that.

 

[Synful*Luv]

I don't think it's a thing that can be linked to one ethnicity or another. I mean seriously, I see kids from all walks of life trying to be "thuggish" who are into rap or hip hop and dress urban and swear that they are really "hardcore."

 

[hizzle?]

^^ like i said, i think that the kids who listen to rap tend to act gankstuhh because their heroes in the rap videos as 50 cent's act hard

 

[HiGhTillDeaTH]

When more than likely, all these guys "acting" hard are punks anyway.

I think it takes a real man to admit "Yeah, I'm a little scared right now" as opposed to a guy saying "Man, fuck this, I ain't scared" etc and then he gets his ass kicked or something.

This is why i have a close knit group of friends, for this very reason.

Anyone who tries to act hard all the time are just simply "acting". These are the type of people I stay away from because you have to walk around on pins and needles because you might say something that might start a fight, but when u talk to a normal calm person it would just spark a converstation.

Plus these types of people always feel like they have something to prove? What in the flying fuck to you have to prove to the grocery store clerk ringing up your milk and eggs. You will likely never see this person again but yet u have to leave a lasting impression of being a prick.

I work at a grocery store at the customer service desk and i was on register helping out because it was busy as hell and a MAN was buying tampons. BUYING TAMPONS OH MY GOD!!! WE SHOULD OF CELEBRATED, DANCED AND TAKEN A PICTURE. i guess they were suppose to be buy one get one and it didnt ring up that way, so i was like, here, ill go check it out and ill be back in 2 seconds, no big deal. But he cuts me off, nah, fuck that, what the fuck, i dont even want em fuck it, give me my fucking money back. Keep in mind that i can see the tampons position on the shelf from where i am standing.

Jesus god!!!!!!!!!! women need tampons when they are on their periods, and for a man not to be able to buy a box of tampons without going into a hissy fit is just simply ridiculous, u really think i care if your buying tampons or not? OH no a fellow shopper might think im a push over because im buying tampons, give me a damn break.

 

[Tru Principle]

I don't think it's a thing that can be linked to one ethnicity or another. I mean seriously, I see kids from all walks of life trying to be "thuggish" who are into rap or hip hop and dress urban and swear that they are really "hardcore."

Im sorrrrrrrry i cant be perfectttttttttt