Mental health/Addiction

[keco52]

@vg4030 he is an ex who is trying to be supportive. (?) He puts his foot in his mouth a lot. He’s upset I declined an invite to go to his family’s lake house to drink on a boat. I’m an introvert to begin with so throwing some emotional trauma on top is not making me feel very social.

All last week and weekend I was with other people as a distraction and to keep my mind off of it. Now I just want to be alone.

And I wasn’t nice about it. I said “I’m sorry my brothers death fell so close to a holiday weekend, I can’t imagine how inconvenient that must be for you” ...that was actually a tamed down version of what I wanted to say.

My logical mind understands. As you said, I’m not even sure how I’m supposed to behave. But my emotional heart...this unreasonable part of me wants people close to me to magically know how to fix it.

Thank you guys for taking time to reply and sharing personal stories.

 

[Ristol]

@vg4030 he is an ex who is trying to be supportive. (?) He puts his foot in his mouth a lot. He’s upset I declined an invite to go to his family’s lake house to drink on a boat. I’m an introvert to begin with so throwing some emotional trauma on top is not making me feel very social.

All last week and weekend I was with other people as a distraction and to keep my mind off of it. Now I just want to be alone.

And I wasn’t nice about it. I said “I’m sorry my brothers death fell so close to a holiday weekend, I can’t imagine how inconvenient that must be for you” ...that was actually a tamed down version of what I wanted to say.

My logical mind understands. As you said, I’m not even sure how I’m supposed to behave. But my emotional heart...this unreasonable part of me wants people close to me to magically know how to fix it.

Thank you guys for taking time to reply and sharing personal stories.

Lady, you should see some of the texts I sent when my dad died. Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do.

 

[k69atie]

@vg4030 Very well said. Also great to see you here man

I agree

 

[k69atie]

Keco I know what you mean about hoping someone knows how to magically fix you

When my friend committed suicide my fiance at the time didn't even come to the funeral with me. Tbf I told him there was no need but the unreasonable part of me was like fuck he should of known I needed hun and he didn't

It also took until 4 years later to realise it was that which was the point in my relationship I stopped loving him

 

[_carmi]

Somebody pretty close to me told me today “As time goes on you seem to be getting worse.”

...It just happened 12 days ago.

I’m so confused how I’m supposed to be acting for people at this point.

There is no good or bad way to act. Be yourself, live those feelings and get help and support. The people who care for you should be there to support you every step of the way.

 

[Rukas]

How are you doing @keco52?

My ex’s brother died when I was with her; so I can somewhat understand what you’re going thru because I saw her go through it. PM me if you need.