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shattered dreams

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Okay as you all know, im soon to give birth. And me and my boyfriend have been trying to work on him coming out here. His dad was playing this act until now, how he was trying and he even told lance (my bf) that "you might be going alone". And if not his aunt would be coming with him and she would stay in a hotel. Now they are saying she doesnt have the money to stay in a hotel.

Number one my mom doesnt like people she doesnt know in our house while she is gone. My mom doesnt want his aunt in our house period. shes not budging. Not only that, there is no room in my house. Period, with me, my mom, my grandmother, lance, and soon aricela. There is no room period.

With that said his dad is trying to force lances aunt into our house. Saying they better find room. Which not only pisses me off, but as well as my mom. My side is not budging we are not allowing her to stay in our house period. And lances dad thinks im just trying to get my way. And he basically said your not going out there unless his aunt stays in my house. Which isnt happening.

Lance is dead set on him coming out here period, and if his parents wont let him do it, hes coming anyways. Hes still a minor. Im an adult. So if he comes and his parents wig out, then what the hell am i supposed to do? Ill get in trouble with the law if he comes. I want him out here and its a risk ill take, but i dont know what the hell to do! my family is not budging there is no room. And his dad is pulling this pussy bullshit.

Please any advice you would have. Please im wigging out, The biggest thing in my life and his family is ruining it. Im fucking breaking down.
 
seriously i dont know what to say. his dad is a bitch. how can he ruin that for you and his son? its one of the biggest event that will happen in your life and he is ruining it. but at the beginning you said his dad would let him go alone because himself couldnt come. but now the aunt HAS TO come? wtf man. did lance tell him what he thinks about that and how old is lance anyways? i'm sure he's old enough to handle it its his family side.

and i understand your mom. i wouldnt let a stranger live in my place while i'm not there. and i wouldnt make my family all stuck in some rooms for a stranger.
 
^ yeah he tried explaining it to him, but he says that we are just lying so i can get my way. And lance is 17, he is old enough to handle it, but his dad is a fucking asshole.

He was telling lance this shit of "your turning into a father not a man". He needs to go back to jail already fucking idiot.
 
shattered dreams said:
^ yeah he tried explaining it to him, but he says that we are just lying so i can get my way. And lance is 17, he is old enough to handle it, but his dad is a fucking asshole.

He was telling lance this shit of "your turning into a father not a man". He needs to go back to jail already fucking idiot.
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your turnin into a father, not a man? whats the point of that?

go back to jail?
 
I wish I could give you some advice...but I'm not really sure...but with only a year difference between the two of you I don't think it would really matter...I d.k. tho :(

I hope something works out tho.
 
My suggestion is you or Lance (or both) get on the phone with the Aunt. She is the one coming not the father, talk to her about the space problem I wouldnt bring up the stranger thing that could cause issues. If you have any other family that would be willing talk to them, but I'd imagine they'd have the same problem as your mom. Otherwise research some cheap places to stay in your area, if she can afford to fly to Vegas (?) unneccessarily then she can afford cheap accommodation. This ofcouse is not something you need on your plate just before giving birth but dont let it stress you, he's going to come either way and I'm sure if the authorities do get involved once they hear the situation they may understand your point of view more than the father. I'd just suggest, if you havent already, speak with the Aunt and it might be a good idea to get your mum on the phone too. Adults know how to talk to each other and it might squash that whole accusation of lying biz.
Hope things work out, n good luck with the birth :)
 
Hey girl! Damn, things just don't wanna go right for you do they? I know you gotta be stressing this but I hope you're not letting it get you into too much of an uproar, you don't need that at this point. The way I see it, he's 17, you're 18, there isn't a whole lot the law can do about it I wouldn't think. It's not like you're 28 and he's 17. That little of an age difference shouldn't be a problem by law. I don't really see where they could do anything about it. I could be wrong about that cause I'm not sure about the laws there or where he lives. But if it can't be worked out and he just comes by himself, y'all might just hafta deal with whatever happens. Might not be anything that happens though so it might be worth the risk. But anyways, good luck with it all and I hope something works out so that he can be there to see his daughter born.
 
artisticgurl, i see your point, but however his aunt is straight from puerto rico, and even though she speaks english, she is not that bright, you can try to explain something to her and she just doesnt seem to catch on. His mother is the same way at times. And my mom does not want to talk to his family with the fact that his father, his a controlling egotistical freak just like my father, and my mom got rid of my father a long time ago, and she is not dealing with someone exactly like him. He refuses to listen, its his way or no way. Hes a fucking bitch.

And she cant afford to stay in a hotel because of the fact it would be a two week stay, and the part of town i live in isnt so cheap. The lowest i saw that wasnt booked was 109 i believe. But now im sure its booked. And she wouldnt understand there is no room if you try to explain it. She is nice and i do like her. But there is just no room. And i have no other family in vegas. Well besides my inlaws. But there is really nothing they could do.

I would attempt to talk to his aunt, but ill give you an example of how it would turn out, i was talking to his mother when i found out about being pregnant, and i told her quote on quote " i was talking to lance about abortion, but he doesnt want it and neither do i" his mother in turn went and told his father, that i said i want an abortion and lance is stopping me. Everything that we say gets twisted in translation to another family member. And as nice as his aunt is shes a bit loony.


But other than that, today he heard his father whispering to his mother about how his aunt works. So who fucking knows. Maybe she wont come because of that. But as of right now they havent mentioned anything about it to him again.


ON A LIGHTER NOTE LOL

tomorrow i find out if i need a csection. even though its a much harder recovery time, i want to have one, that way its number one easier on aricela. And number two it would have a set date on when he has to come out here, which would boost up his chances on coming alone a lot higher. We shall see. Because they thought they could feel her head, but when i went to the hospital on friday, they found her heartbeat by my belly button which is abnormally high (placement) for them to feel her head. so now they think it might be a hip or butt. Which means if she is breach i get a c sec. Which means i would have her in the next two weeks. Im torn whether i want one or not.

Sorry if my posts seems to draft into other subjects, its hard for me to think straight right now with all this shit on my mind.

but thanks for your guys advice, i really appreciate it.
 
^ i think so. but he doesnt ever do it. And its no use anyways. His dad is the person that tries to run everything.

Yesterday he had lance hang up with me and told him to tell me hed call me back. so he could talk to him. And told him how i was lying that my house didnt have a basement or attic, and that every house has a basement or attic.

When lance mentioned that his uncles house didnt have an attic or a basement his dad just ignorned him. And said that i was plotting and scheming this whole shit just like i did the pregnancy. And the pregnancy was all my fault. fucking asshole, and telling lance he better not go by himself because everyone is going to be worried about him. But it doesnt matter, because lance told me that tonight he is sitting down with his mom,dad and sister and talking to them all about how he is feeling about the situation, and basically letting them know not to be worried when he leaves by himself because hes going either way.

Im sure thats going to go over well :rollseyes:

And to top things off, his dad is trying to be all nice to lance like hugging him (which he rarely ever does) and telling him he wants to take him to the movies. and i know exactly why he is doing it, because right now his dad wants lance to listen to him, so he is trying to make their relationship better so he will listen to them. Fucking sick how he uses a son/father relationship to try and get his son to do what he wants. My dad did the same shit to me, it didnt work on me, and its not going to work on lance.
 
shattered_dremas ur posts re hella long ;)

well if lance is decided to come no matter what, then no matter what his dad does he should come tight?

about the csection, if thats what you want then good luck with that girl
 
yeah. but she aint online that much or doesnt at least to seem active anymore that much these days :(
 
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