am i being unfair??

[ill-matic]

i met this dude who uused to know my brother from a few years back. hes a year older than me an i sometimes see the dude on the way home from work or uni. he lives near me... and he's a nice dude. so i bump into him.. he thinks i was my bro then he realises im not and bla bla we become friends

i barely know the dude.. and he asks me to go clubbing with him. im like aight i got exams soon so i duno. then it turns out none of his freidns really like clubbing.. so i was the only dude he would have gone with. he kept asking me to come. i barely know the guy and i duno i just feel iffy about hanging out with him like that. like it would be sweeet if there were mutual peeps there, you know? but seeing as it would be just me and him it put me off a little.

i always run into this dude, and he keeps calling me and messaging me to go somewhere with him. i get vibes hes kinda lonely cos like we barely know each other and he's gettin all chummy and shit. honestly, hes a nice dude, and i would go somewhere with him if there were mutual friends there but not solely with him cos i dont know him well so itd be like going somewhere with a stranger. so i kinda avoid arrannging to go anywhere.

is this unfair? am i being a fuckwit

 

[linx]

It's not unfair. If you don't wanna go, don't go. Why do you care what he thinks about it? You barely know the dude. Clubs are ass to begin with, you aren't missing out on anything.

 

[Tha_Wood]

not as unfair as sebastian not including the rookie of the year poll. i no what you mean though i am kind of in the same situation, i no the bloke but not to well and he always wants to drink with me.

 

[Tekneek]

Clubs are fuckin' lame anyways.

 

[S O F I]

To actually ANSWER your question.

People around here are used to that. They see the person once or twice and they already want to hang out or go somewhere. I'm iffy about that myself. You kind of have to wonder about a guy if he's trying to hang out with you that bad and you don't know him much. I met these dudes in front of a bar the other weekend and they helped me get in, bought me drinks inside, and called me to go with them to some boat party the next weekend. They seemed too nice, like something was fishy (didn't seem gay though), so I passed up on that. But, hey, if he knows your brother, then, why not?

 

[Rukas]

Well, if you want to hang out with him but want other people there why dont you invite him out to the club with you and your friends? That way it doesnt have to be one on one youre safe and everyone is happy.

Otherwise poke him in the eye and steal his phone.

 

[Sebastian]

not as unfair as sebastian not including the rookie of the year poll. i no what you mean though i am kind of in the same situation, i no the bloke but not to well and he always wants to drink with me.

Shut up silly kid.

 

[Preach]

I have social phobia. By now I have overcome many aspects of it, but I still have a hard time letting people down, particularly speaking face to face and having to see their negative reaction, having to worry about whether or not they think I am saying no because I dislike them.

Because of this I have several times taken people up on weird offers. A russian lady customer invited me to her son's birthday because of good service and I went lmao. I've done a few things like that over the years but by now I am overcoming it like I said.

I understand you very well. I too think it's sort of unpleasant to have a guy ask me to go out with him lol. I get a couple. Another weird thing, my dopeman has kicked his drug habit and started phoning me and inviting me to his place like daily. I don't know wtf I'm gonna do with that lol.

 

[_carmi]

Well, if you want to hang out with him but want other people there why dont you invite him out to the club with you and your friends? That way it doesnt have to be one on one youre safe and everyone is happy.

Otherwise poke him in the eye and steal his phone.

what he said.

 

[Tha_Wood]

Shut up silly kid.

Youll never silence the voice of the voiceless

 

[EDouble]

this aint a date brother