carmi, he did those things within the last few months! i still to this day don't understand why i was with him for so long, but i think it has to do with me being able to fully appreciate matt!!! i may not have been lucky but i did learn alot through out those 3.5yrs and for the learning experience i thank him, i now know that i will never ever let a man treat me the way that he did. but i dont have to worry about that with matt, he's the greatest guy ever!! i hope all of you find someone like him.