Serious Question for all members

[Ma-k'av-"eli]

I was just wondering:

Have you ever lost someone in your life and if so, how did you deal with it at that time and how are you doing now?

Reply back when you can, but always remember now and in the future, that Ma-k'av-"eli aka you know who got mad love for you and for my thoughts are with you and even with those who have died in this life, much love, and never worry....

 

[C.R.Y.]

yeah ive lost 2 friends and 2 uncles. i dealt with it by just doing things to take my mind off of it. like watch boxing, play baskbetball, etc.


did you lose someone?

 

[Duke]

a grandfather and a grandmother. (about 3 years apart)

what can i say about it? you grief, you accept it, you move on.

also, when my grandfather died, i was around 9, and grandmother died about 3 after that. So i was 12-ish. At young age the initial blow hits harder, but i didn't dwell on it.

 

[one mc on dj]

you accept it, you move on.

yeah thats the best thing to do no bullshit I mean u live and u die and that's it so just move the fuck on..

 

[radkin]

but remember to never forget

 

[.cloud.]

An uncle (suicide), an infant cousin (premature birth), and a great-grandmother. How did I deal with it? Fine, I suppose. I didn't really know any of them well enough to say it affected me outright..

 

[roadsense]

I lost my father, and all I did was just cry and get really pissed

 

[2pac4prez2004]

lost my sister, died when giving birth, how did i get past it? erm, put it at the back of mind seemed the best option, no need to keep dwelling on the fact....that shit is out of our hands

 

[haunted]

I take it hard when someone I know dies. I guess because its always been from murder and they have all been really young. All the times for me what happens is i just keep quiet and keep it inside, and then i just blow up and after that i feel better.

 

[H.E. Pennypacker]

My uncle's wife died recently. Its really strange accepting the fact that she's no longer there, because I remember seeing her just a year ago. At least there was something good that came out of the visit last year. We haven't seen her in about five years, she visited us, and died a couple of weeks ago. At least we got to see her. I never really got a long with her, but that doesn't mean I didn't mourn her death.

There was a friend (on and off friend) who died last year (2004). No one really knows the cause because he supposedly won the struggle against cancer, but soon after a "victory party" died. It really came out of nowhere. Its a shame I didn't even see him in about 5/6 years.

My grandfather's wife died, but I never knew her.

One of my uncles died because we came from a warzone. If you weren't with the right tribe, you were dead. My mother told me they just walked into his house and killed him on the spot.

My sister's husband's cousin died because his own cousin shot him. That was just recently.

I am sure there are more people, but I can't think of any others right now.

 

[Missy "C"]

Yeah, my grandfather and my grandmother's cousin

It was horrible when I lost my grandfather, but I'm glad he went without feeling pain, he didn't even realised he was going to die. He never cared about his heath but at least he did what he wanted to do, he enjoyed his life.

And my grandmother's cousin died some months ago, I'm a very sad cuz I hadn't seen her for a long time, she didn't live near me. But when I was a child I spent a lot of time with her, she lived in a farm and I had a lot of fun in her company, she taugh me many things!

I think that's the worst part of losing somebody, you start remembering all the time you spent with that person, and you miss all that so much. But you have to move on, it's the only way, and of course, never forgeting them.

 

[2PacThug4Life]

i lost my cousin before i was born and i lost my grandfather about 2 years ago. it was hard when my grandfather died because i could see it was very hard on my dad.

 

[AmerikazMost]

My teacher. She meant so much to all the kids she had in class. She was a friend more than anything.

How did I deal with it? I cried, and there have been times since that I've felt like crying. But the thing is you just have to keep your head up and keep going. I've accepted it, but it still doesn't feel completely real to me. I couldn't bring myself to go to her viewing, and I haven't been back to the middle school since.

It's easier for me because I realize how much she left behind in me and all her other students. Our success will be hers.

 

[Preach]

like, didn't you get banned for being a fruit or something?

i lost my grandfather, all my great grandparents, and a couple of friends from school a couple of years ago. dukey is right - the younger you are, the harder the initial blow hits. you accept it, you move on. in my later years i've learnt that it's usually not the initial blow that's the worst, but the funeral, and even moreso the part of the funeral where the casket is lowered into the hole.