Synful*Luv said:
Kareem:
You need to find some better females to surround yourself with. That right there is such HS behavior. The whole "I want a thug" attitude. Whatever, I'm straight on thugs, lol.
Furthermore, no lady wants a punk, i don't think. You want to feel safe and protected when you're with your man for the most part. But these guys who walk around acting like they don't have any other feelings outside of anger just aren't real and I hate fake ass niggas. That shit irritates me more than anything.
If you ever get a chance, read some articles on "Just War Theory". One of the requirements to go to war (or in our case, have to resort to violence to protect yourself and your girlfriend) is for it to be a last resort.
I would surely defend my own because I view that as a just cause but only if its a last resort. It's not as easy as pushing a button and defending yourself. Alot can go wrong, you can kill the person you're defending yourself against... you can get hurt in the process and get seriously hurt. In some countries like mine, it's illegal to kill even in self defense (talk about a screwed up law). What if it wasn't a last resort?
I'm just saying, if you can resolve a conflict with words why do you need to resort to violence?
Anyway, in my major - you're taught to appreciate life, to understand conflict and understand the reasons behind it - you're taught to prolong life and attempt to heal rather than destroy.
In the end, i'll cut your throat with your own femur bone if you try and threaten my own... but if I don't need to do that, then I won't..
i have to strongly disagree. like Fataldawg, i know it's not all women, but almost every woman i have met or have been friends with say they want a nice guy who will treat them right, but then they go out with drug dealers and assholes, these "thugs" you're talking about. it may be HS bullshit as you say, but it sure seems that a lot of these females do want a punk. the funny thing is that they go out with these guys, and then they wonder why they are treated like crap.
I agree with all that you said but notice that these women are usually, if not
always, the women with insecurities. It's really a deep rooted conflict in the psyche. They knowingly enter a relationship like this expecting to get hurt, scratch that... they are HOPING to get hurt because... here's the million dollar ANSWER... they have little no self esteem. They have little to no self worth. They do not feel they are deserving of a good man, so they always some how... *magically* stumble upon men that treat them like crap because they feel they are not worthy of a good man.
I strongly disagree with what Syn said about all women wanting what she wants... the females I surround my self with, would never put up with that shit.