Well, I for one think you are completely off base. The ban has been implemented a few years in Norway so maybe my opinion is full of bias, but I used to think this to begin with.
Then, thinking about it, I realized that a person who doesn't smoke cigarettes but is exposed to second-hand smoke on a frequent basis has a substantially higher chance of developing illnesses that are fatal at an earlier than average age. You just made a hypocrite out of yourself. You want her to respect your opinion that the ban is stupid and that you are "standing like 3 meters from her, wtf", and at the same time, you call her stupid and use her obesity against her. I bet on a subconscious level you may even have thought less of her for being fat, shown by your obvious hatred towards people who like pies lol.
And you are a grown man now. You didn't have to stand RIGHT outside the bus stop. Cause then you make it into a stupid thing, like, okay another 20 centimeters and it's illegal. You are fucking up the whole purpose of the ban, which is that smokers have themselves to blame for their habit and they should walk the walk, not the random person who doesn't smoke. When I go outside to smoke at work, I don't just stand by the entrance, I actually move several meters away and stand somewhere where people don't pass by. I do this out of respect, because when there's a new rule that people need to become accustomed to and understand, you need to be principal.
And when someone says "I reserve the right to smoke" they really just mean "I don't have what it takes to quit". Be that strength, emotions or will.
It is banned in bus stops because it has a roof and is enclosed from more than 2 sides.
I will not comment on this right now, but later on in the post.You are the one who is off base! (said in Jay from Jay & Silent Bob voice)
I don't want her to respect my opinion that the ban is stupid. I could care less if she thinks its a great idea and jumps for joy. The point is, she was insinuating that I was breaking the law. Which I wasn't.
Well, what can I say. The obvious would be "and I wasn't being that serious about it which is why I added a lol at the end, trying to lighten the mood a little or whatever". I don't care, the way you describer her was pretty disrespectful and even for being heat-of-the-moment type of stuff there could be a fatty out there who read it and got truly hurt. Sure it wouldn't kill her to chill down on the pies a little, lol, but you misunderstand people if you think anyone deserves to hear that, so you have nothing to justify the way you described her other than "I don't give a shit, I was joking". Fair enough though, hey, I could probably blurt out a disrespectful remark too you know. I know that people have flaws. But uh...The fat/obsesity/pies thing, don't take it so seriously dude. I have no hatred towards people who eat pies, where the fuck did that come from? I didn't even notice her, and would not have done, if she had not tried to call me out on that bullshit.
You are reading into things that aren't there. On a subconscious level I think less of her for being fat? Um, how about NOT AT ALL.
You are moronic making that assumption about me. Paranoia and insecurity is something I've dealt with my whole life and for the most part overcome. I enjoy great success in my life right now if you must know. I lost 45 pounds, I am putting in work and making money and loving it, I had a great vacation at Chronic's place, I have found new ways to spend my time and I have friends who show me great respect. You have no idea what you are talking about, "man".Preach, I'm starting to worry about you man. You are ridiculously paranoid, it's honestly quite worrying. You should chill on the skunk dude, I think it's frying your brain slightly. Learn to take things at face value - most of the time, things really are as simple as they appear to be. That's the best advice I can give you man.
Fair enough.I did have to stand right outside the bus stop, because I could either stand there, or stand in the middle of the road. It was nowhere near the actual entrance to the bus stop, which was on the other side (it has like see through plastic so you can see inside). Basically it's the equivalent of smoking outside a restaurant and someone pointing through the window of the restaurant to a no smoking sign inside and saying it. No difference.
I was standing nowhere near where anyone would have to walk past.
Great for you. Really. That wasn't my point though.And I disagree with your last comment. I have never said I reserve the right to smoke. And I could quit right this second if I wanted to. I have before, for months at a time. I smoke because I enjoy it, not because I'm addicted, I'm not. That's the difference - most people I know that smoke and they say they're addicted and want to quit but can't or whatever, they smoke like a pack a day. I can't even fathom smoking that much, I smoke on average, 2 cigarettes a day.
Refer to what I said above. I am really into psychology, have taken some work courses in that direction, and am in the process of reading through a few books. I don't need to see a shrink, thank you very much. I know how the human mind works and do not need someone to explain to me what differs real depression from emo feelings. I am fully capable of casting that judgment on myself at any time. I don't get why you get that impression from me though. You're the fucking emo lol.Preach....please chill out on the weed buddy. Go and see a shrink if you need to. Every post you make it's becoming clearer that you're turning into some kind of light-sensitive emo who sits in front of his computer smoking weed all day and over analysing every situation, thinking way too much about everything.
Okay buddy. Thanks for the tip.You're coming across as really insecure man, I hate to say it. I think you need some sober reflection time and some self-esteem boosting. It's really obvious to anyone reading most of your posts.
You just have the world all figured out don't you, you imbecile? Refer to this post of mine:I think this situation with this girl has thrown you for a loop as well.....you are at that self-deprecating point where you think too much about your own flaws and just accept them for what they are. I've seen you do it and say things like that numerous times now. Think positively, change yoursef for the better, you need to learn how to be assertive and you need some self confidence, that's all it is man.
I've always said, you should live your life as if there's Hollywood camera following you all the time. Act like you're the hottest, greatest guy in the world (you can do this without coming off as an asshole, it's about balance).
Put yourself across one way - and people will treat you that way. It's that simple. That's exactly why you're in the situation that you are with this chick where you are well and truly stuck in the friend zone.

So I was at the bus stop yesterday having a cigarette when this obese jamaican bitch
I will not comment on this right now, but later on in the post.
Well, what can I say. The obvious would be "and I wasn't being that serious about it which is why I added a lol at the end, trying to lighten the mood a little or whatever". I don't care, the way you describer her was pretty disrespectful and even for being heat-of-the-moment type of stuff there could be a fatty out there who read it and got truly hurt. Sure it wouldn't kill her to chill down on the pies a little, lol, but you misunderstand people if you think anyone deserves to hear that, so you have nothing to justify the way you described her other than "I don't give a shit, I was joking". Fair enough though, hey, I could probably blurt out a disrespectful remark too you know. I know that people have flaws. But uh...
You are moronic making that assumption about me. Paranoia and insecurity is something I've dealt with my whole life and for the most part overcome. I enjoy great success in my life right now if you must know. I lost 45 pounds, I am putting in work and making money and loving it, I had a great vacation at Chronic's place, I have found new ways to spend my time and I have friends who show me great respect. You have no idea what you are talking about, "man".
Fair enough.
Great for you. Really. That wasn't my point though.
Refer to what I said above. I am really into psychology, have taken some work courses in that direction, and am in the process of reading through a few books. I don't need to see a shrink, thank you very much. I know how the human mind works and do not need someone to explain to me what differs real depression from emo feelings. I am fully capable of casting that judgment on myself at any time. I don't get why you get that impression from me though. You're the fucking emo lol.
You just have the world all figured out don't you, you imbecile? Refer to this post of mine:
http://www.streethop.com/forums/showpost.php?p=737975&postcount=38
The woman who was sitting at the bus stop was an individual. For whatever reason, her impulses made her say to you "don't you see the no smoking sign?" For a man who talks about changing for the better, how about this perspective: The woman has lived a life, a lot longer than yours. She has seen a lot more than you, and had a lot more impressions and emotions. This makes her more biased, but at the same time, if you want to strive for becoming a better person, how about understanding the neurological point of view to this. As I mentioned in my post, through different impressions, experiences and emotions, we all create different pictures of the universe in our brain.
Imagine that you were to make a map of england. On this map you want all the information about england. About every street, every household, every person, every tree, every living creature or organism, every rock, every damn atom. You have the full map of england now, right? No, you also have to put england's history and culture into the map, and its different personalities. Its kings and its queens. Every flow of energy. There is so much going on in the world that you could never have a complete "map" of england. Much by the same principle, you can never have a "complete" understanding of "the universe" or "the world". If you want to strive at becoming a better person, as you so gallantly put it, how about opening up to the idea that there are other people out there who have a completely different view of the world than you, and respect their opinions.
All she did was make a remark about you smoking because you're not supposed to smoke and you were probably standing borderline close and she wanted to make a principle about it because soon as you start slacking on a law, well, you know what happens. The law was put there to protect people's health, and who knows, maybe she was an nurse having seen lots of people die of cancer due to smoking. Far-fetched, but you get the idea of where I'm going? And you dare to try and lecture me about my mental health like I need a shrink to tell me what is going on inside my head and how that sits in the perspective of other people.
Thank you man, really, you have saved me with your advice.
As for bringing my situation with a girl into this, heh, I'm not gonna try and deny that she has had a great influence on my life, but I think you are making the assumption that my happiness lies solely with the hope of being with her or something. I'm not a stupid dreamer when it comes to my own life, I'm a realist. You, again, have no idea what you are talking about.

I'm so not reading you guys anymore.
All you had to say was" Relax missus i aint in the bus stop" It really aint worth getting your nickers in a twist over.Preach, you are not the moral defender of the people. That's not your job. Don't try and come at me like you've NEVER said anything that's borderline hurtful about someone, even if they hadn't made the decision to try and speak on you and yours. And if you honestly claim you haven't, well, then I bow to you oh great and good one! I am humbled by your aura![]()
If you're readily admitting you've dealt with it your whole life, then how am I making an assumption? You've said it before too. And you don't have to tick off the boxes of reasons why [xyz] - it means nothing. Plenty of people have more going for them than that and still have major issues to deal with.
Militant said:How so? Your statement of "I know how the human mind works" completely contradicts your entire next paragraph about individuality and "the idea that there are other people out there who have a completely different view of the world than you", and reading some books about psychology doesn't suddenly give you an understanding into your own psyche, just like learning about guns wouldn't make a suicidal person stop wanting to cap themself.
militant said:"You're not supposed to smoke". Says who? Last I checked this wasn't a fascist dictatorship. I'll do what I damn well please and I was doing nothing wrong here. I was not standing borderline close, I was in a complete different section as I've said on multiple times now.
I TOLD you that what you said about Preach was disrespectful and insulting, but you think your words are acceptable purely because you are "friends"? Regardless of that it still doesn't discount from what U suggested about him, and I honestly don't blame him for replying to you in the way he did.
I think you honestly have a large problem with accepting other people's opinions, values and suggestions. You don't seem to be able to take criticisms well, because you go all defensive and shit, arguing against even the most minute & insignificant of points. I mean, an illustration of this is you trashing Preach's character, portraying him as an unstable, paranoid emo - which was solely prompted by him going against your initial post.
Lighten up a little, the world doesnt revolve around you bro, and you are not always right. keep that shit in mind.

In what way does it contradict his next paragraph? He is trying to convey the idea that he can empathise with this woman and see things from her point of view. Like we both said before - she was, perhaps, very conscious about her health and safety, or perhaps as Preach suggested, she might be some nurse who works in the cancer ward or some shit. You never know.. most of the time this stuff can't just be shrugged off as being an unwarranted attack on you, despite it being annoying as fuck and interfering with the enjoyment of your ciggarette.
umm says who? Say's your countries legislation for one. Yeh, you're right, it's not a fascist dictatorship but laws are put in place for a reason. You'll do damn well what you please? Thanks, that gives more credence to my suggestions of your arrogance. If everyone did "damn well what they pleased" then society wouldn't function. You're a cool rockstar, but you aint above the law buddy.