keeping in contact with people

[Jocka]

I'd like to get some opinions on who I should and shouldn't keep in contact with and reasons. I'll make this short but i'm going to add my explanations to the side.

1. Previous Boss - I recently wrote him and email to see how things were going. while HIS boss screwed me, this was a good guy and I'm keeping contact for future jobs that may come up (my 'hobby' doesn't require i quit my current job so no worries)

2. (female) Friends - I've always been more comfortable with women. I could talk with them, they can talk with me, etc. And their fun to look .. which is the only issue here really

3. Ex-Girlfriends - I just have a good friendly relationship with most of them that was there before we dated. I feel they are some of the closest of my friends but my wife thinks finding different friends would be better.

4. Associates - Although none of them were ever really friends, they have something to offer me. Whether it be job opportunities or anything else they can offer that other friends can't. I feel these may be the most important to keep in contact with.

So who should/shouldn't I stay in contact with and why? Frankly, I think they all offer something that I want/need but some may be less important and more of a problem than others. Thoughts?

 

[S O F I]

It's weird to ask for such advice. I mean, jesus, ask yourself the question. It's like you're asking us to pick your friends.

 

[dillaxx]

yeah, really its up to you... i'd ask myself who has done what for me... and then start purging the useless ones like stalin

 

[Jocka]

HA! No it's like some people say I shouldn't keep in touch with female friends or ex g/f because it's just bad news being married. Some say being in touch with an old boss can be bad if my current boss found out about it or something.. Leaving an associate with the idea that they are a friend is just wrong.. etc.. stuff like that. Your advice just serves as a tool to help me decide who i should not talk to anymore. I've just realized that I'm better without some people.. just not sure which people that is haha

 

[S O F I]

Your advice just serves as a tool to help me decide who i should not talk to anymore.

.........................................................the fuck?


This serves as proof....children do not make a person more mature.

 

[tHuG $TyLe]

^Lol..

Don't keep in contact with anyone. Thats what I do.

 

[dillaxx]

yeah, fuck people... you got a wife and kids, allocate all expenditures of time and money to them...

yes, i have a microecon test... so shut up

 

[Jocka]

sofi - eat me. by eat I mean kill and by me I mean yourself

People do seem to suck for the most part but I have to have a social life... maybe this could all be resolved over a game of The Sims...

 

[Jokerman]

Don't stay in contact with your wife and kids or you'll regret it one day.

 

[Jocka]

I'm already starting to regret some parts of it

 

[Rahim]

well my friends tell me not to care about anyone because no one really cares about anyone if u really think about it...everyone has hidden agendas....and my friends tell me to be careful and not to wait for anyone. but who to keep in touch with? its up to you who you think is important. sometimes you might care about the person more then they care about you, but thats not a bad thing because you still care about them...but the fact of the matter is that...u dont need to be coool with everyone...thats what a good friend of mine taught me...thats what he told me...he told me that i dont need to be cool with everyone....because if they dont spend time on me why should i with them......and thats something that im still slowly learning. ofcourse theres that one person in your life that you will never stop caring about no matter what...and that is something that will never change...ever.


but do what u think is best, and if u've made "contacts" before youll make em or break em over and over..so dont worry about that. just keep the people that you care about close to your heart and thats all that is important.

oh ya and try to be honest to people of where they stand in ur life. if u dont let them know where they stand, u might end up in a bad situation man


okay heres a blue print in order of importance to keep in touch with "contacts"
0. GOD
1. Family
2. Friends
3. Business
4. Others

 

[ill_joe]

Who'd want to be friends with you? you only want friends for what they can do for you.

You will never have any real friends.

Thats sad.

 

[Katarina]

Don't stay friends with your ex-girlfriends. It will never do anything but bad things for you. Trust me on this. *bitter as fuck*

 

[Jocka]

Rahim - Insanely long reply. And keeping contacts is always important in life. Sometimes it can be for something as small as references on a resume. Sometimes as big as a life crisis. You always have to have someone there that can help. Oh.. and i'm not religious so God is pretty low on the list.

ill_joe - Your right. Do you have friends that help you? People that will do stuff for you others won't? I don't really "want" anything but I do expect something. Whether I have real friends isn't a concern. I only have 1 true friend and to be honest, thats all I need. It took him years to earn my trust.

Katarina - I've slowed down my conversations with Ex's. It seems it always leads to the same place. "Why did we break up?" blah blah blah. And the convo ends with me saying "I'm married now and I don't care to think about 'us'. Please stop.". Something to that extent. So long story short, I think I'm going to cut at least MOST of them loose.

 

[Bender]

In this 'big-brother' society I would strongly recommend that you don't keep in touch with people, and become hostile to those who don't respect you having an ounce of privacy.

 

[_carmi]

Who you should stay in contact with:

Previous Boss - I recently wrote him and email to see how things were going. while HIS boss screwed me, this was a good guy and I'm keeping contact for future jobs that may come up (my 'hobby' doesn't require i quit my current job so no worries)

Associates - Although none of them were ever really friends, they have something to offer me. Whether it be job opportunities or anything else they can offer that other friends can't. I feel these may be the most important to keep in contact with.

they can bring you opportunities. it's good to have contacts in life. fuck the rest, they are remplaceable. and fuck your exs, exs are bad news always, if its not now, its later. thats how exs are.