I have a dillema

[Steph]

Ok, so, my problem is that Im with this guy, i think this guy is really cool when we're around friends. But when we're alone or something, it feels so akward, like theres no connection there, he soppsedly really likes me, but I think I still like my ex (his best friend). I dont want to stay in a relationship that will go no where, but i also dont know how to tell my bf that i like my ex. Aside from that being fucked up, my ex is with one of my sopposedly best friends. Im so confused, I dont feel like being in a relationship, but i dont know how to say it. Anybody have any advice? Plz, that would really be apreciated.

 

[ArtsyGirl]

Are you around your ex alot while your with ur current bf? No disrespect but are you with your bf to make ur ex jealous? Sounds like your really just good friends with ur bf. I'd say sort out your feelings and let ur bf know before he gets too attached, you gotta let go of one of em.

 

[Steph]

Are you around your ex alot while your with ur current bf?

Yes, theyre best friends, we all kick it together.

No disrespect but are you with your bf to make ur ex jealous?.

naa its not that, im with him coz i think hes really cool and shit, i like being around him, but he changes when its just the two of us, i dont like that. I like my ex but hes with a really close friend......what i dont like about that is that she doesnt appreciate him,...she'll do anyone that will do her....anyways...yea, im still confused but im gonna try and talk to him

 

[_carmi]

talk to ur bf.. but i dont know if u should tell him u like ur ex since ur ex is his bestfriend that then ur ex will know and do u want ur ex to know? but talk to ur bf anyways. discussion is the solution.

 

[Katarina]

Think of it like this: the longer you are with your boyfriend, the more he will start to care for you, thus the longer you keep from telling him the truth about how you feel, the more hurt he will be in the end.

 

[k69atie]

tell your bf how you feel, if there is no connection there then tell him, make it easier in the long run.

 

[k69atie]

Let us know how you get on

 

[_carmi]

yeah whats happening?

 

[Amara]

Ok, so, my problem is that Im with this guy, i think this guy is really cool when we're around friends. But when we're alone or something, it feels so akward, like theres no connection there, he soppsedly really likes me, but I think I still like my ex (his best friend). I dont want to stay in a relationship that will go no where, but i also dont know how to tell my bf that i like my ex. Aside from that being fucked up, my ex is with one of my sopposedly best friends. Im so confused, I dont feel like being in a relationship, but i dont know how to say it. Anybody have any advice? Plz, that would really be apreciated.

In what way is it akward when you are alone? Just nothing to say or you dont like being in his company with no-one else there? If you dont feel like being in a relationship, there's no reason to feel obliged to stay in it. You could talk with him, see if he wants to keep it at friends. Dont put your feelings behind everyone elses.

 

[Steph]

Dont put your feelings behind everyone elses.

Funny you say that, I tend to do this a lot. I put loved ones, or just peoples feelings before mines, and i usually end up getting hurt in the proccess. I guess Im just a little too nice and considarete.
Well update, I'm not with him anymore since yesterday, but were still friends, he took it pretty well. He was sad, but it went ok. Now, to enjoy the single life and just check out the hotties lol.

 

[k69atie]

^^^ Yey!!! glad it went ok for you

 

[Amara]

Funny you say that, I tend to do this a lot. I put loved ones, or just peoples feelings before mines, and i usually end up getting hurt in the proccess. I guess Im just a little too nice and considarete.

Yeah could pick that up about your personality. Even though it may seem kinda selfish, there's nothing wrong with putting your own feelings first - like they say, you gotta look out for number one, coz no-one else is going to...

 

[_carmi]

i'm happy it went well for u. yeah enjoy looking for hotties that is what being single is for

 

[liz]

Good things worked out for you.

However when you start dating peeps thats in your inner circle it will be awkward, if I understand the post correctly your new b/f was friends with your ex b/f and your girl was now dating your ex....

Thats too close for comfort.

liz