cheating

[_carmi]

eh felt like creating a new thread so...

whats your definition of cheating?

a thing as small as kissing is cheating for me. well any physical contact like kissing, or having sex or him that has his hands all over a girl's body. also i would not appreciate him going out with another girl all alone or him talking for hours on the phone with a girl. neither i want him dancing with other girls or going to the stripclub.

now after this i do sound possessive :woah: but i'm not.

 

[Synful*Luv]

anything a guy does that he wouldn't do in front of me is cheating :thumb:

 

[_carmi]

anything a guy does that he wouldn't do in front of me is cheating :thumb:

concrete examples?

 

[shattered dreams]

anything a guy does that he wouldn't do in front of me is cheating :thumb:

Exactly, nice way of putting it. Me, because of my past and seeing my mother get cheated on in the worst possible way. I am very very very strict about anything being considered cheating, even down to play fighting. Since most play fighting is flirty. I really hate him talking to any other girls, simply for the fact of what i saw my dad do to my mom, im very very insecure about it. And this i know. Its something i have to work on. But i consider practically alot cheating.

 

[Amara]

a thing as small as kissing is cheating for me. well any physical contact like kissing, or having sex or him that has his hands all over a girl's body. also i would not appreciate him going out with another girl all alone or him talking for hours on the phone with a girl. neither i want him dancing with other girls or going to the stripclub.

Yeah I feel the same. Although not cheating per se, any non-platonic feelings he has for another girl would be a betrayal in my mind... not that I'd rush to break up with a guy for being attracted to someone else, but it would hurt my feelings! lol!

 

[Synful*Luv]

concrete examples?

Yeah, anything that involves intimacy. Like, if a guy is with his female friend who's just his friend. They can hold hands, horseplay, kiss (not tongue, on the cheek) or whatever and it wouldn't be a big deal. Like he wouldn't feel anything by it. And as long as he knew I wasn't the
"the jealous type" he would do it all in front of me.

Now, if he's hanging out with this girl and he has feelings for her. Then even something as innocent as them bumping into one another by accident is going to cause them embarrasment. They'll look at me, like uh oh was I caught, even though they didn't do anything.

If the situation with the guy is the second one then basically, anything he does with the girl is cheating. even thinking about her because he's interested in her, which means he can't give his all to me so he needs to come clean and tell me.

 

[Katarina]

When he's actually considering being with her, when it goes further than just flirting and he can see himself doing something with her then I consider that cheating.

On the other hand, that's very hard for me to see, so any contact he has with that person (going out for coffee, talking on the phone etc) would be cheating, because that means he is trying to get close to her and basically just working his way up to the cheating part.

 

[Katarina]

Like for example, my boyfriend was sending text messages to this girl, very unappropriate ones (not about sex but you know). They never did anything as far as I know, not even kiss, but I consider that cheating.

This girl slept in his bed with him once (because she was crazy... long story lol) but I don't consider that cheating because he never wanted to do anything with her.

 

[_carmi]

Like for example, my boyfriend was sending text messages to this girl, very unappropriate ones (not about sex but you know). They never did anything as far as I know, not even kiss, but I consider that cheating.

This girl slept in his bed with him once (because she was crazy... long story lol) but I don't consider that cheating because he never wanted to do anything with her.

no girl is sleeping in my bf's bed. as well as no girl is entering his apartment if i'm not there. thats how it is. if im not there, i cant be sure.

Yeah I feel the same. Although not cheating per se, any non-platonic feelings he has for another girl would be a betrayal in my mind... not that I'd rush to break up with a guy for being attracted to someone else, but it would hurt my feelings! lol!

eh me too for sure. if he has feelings for another girl i wouild be "make up your mind now its me or her and theres no coming back after" even if it would break my heart.


lol what is funny is today i was discussing this with my bf cuz i' going to that stripper club in 2 weeks for a friend's bday and he was like "i dont wanna see you other men like that naked " lol he's sorta insecure about this but so was i when he went to that strip club once. not that i dont trust him, and not that he doesnt trust me, but we're simply possessive like that. but thats good tho cuz we have the same opinion on basically everything thats about relationships and thats AWESOME.

 

[G.Litt]

Kissing.. licking .. whatever is cheating.. and the only reason he didn t fukk her is cuz she didnt let him.. so fuck kissing and licking.. its CHEATING

 

[Katarina]

no girl is sleeping in my bf's bed. as well as no girl is entering his apartment if i'm not there. thats how it is. if im not there, i cant be sure.

Wow, you're jealous. LOL

I wasn't exactly happy when I heard but since he told me I know they didn't do anything and well I know he never would anyway because like I said, the girl is a nutter.

 

[Beautiful Angel]

this is a hard subject for me bc i'm insecure but i'm trying not to be such a jealous person. i've been cheated on many times most of them were having sex with other women but one he just kissed some other girl, who didn't know he had a girlfriend. i'm not so jealous that i don't want my boyfriend talkin to other girls, but like syn said as long as its done in front of my face and not behind my back its ok.....there is this one friend of matt's who i HATE! she is always tryin to be all over him and when we are all at the same place she waits til i leave to go talk to him or be by him. it's like if you want to be friends with him that's fine but don't do it behind my back!! that's what pisses me off. and the bitch hasn't even taken the time to known my name, she calls me "matt's girlfriend" and we've been dating for over 5 monts now! that's just disrespectful in my eyes

 

[k69atie]

to me cheating is kissing (i mean full on kissing not just a peck) or doing anything else like that with another girl

 

[_carmi]

Wow, you're jealous. LOL

I wasn't exactly happy when I heard but since he told me I know they didn't do anything and well I know he never would anyway because like I said, the girl is a nutter.

well its more that im not confortable with that. see i do trust my bf but i'm the kind of girl who doubts easily i'm more possessive than jealous. maybe its bad, but it hasnt affected our relationship from as far as i know and my bf is sorta the same way.

 

[ArtsyGirl]

Anything really, denying the relationship, sending messages to other girls in a flirty way that type of thing I'd consider more intent to cheat which I wouldnt hang around to get hit with the more physical cheating which are obvious. Anything that neglects the relationship for another person, physical or emotional, is cheating.

 

[Katarina]

Anything really, denying the relationship, sending messages to other girls in a flirty way that type of thing I'd consider more intent to cheat which I wouldnt hang around to get hit with the more physical cheating which are obvious. Anything that neglects the relationship for another person, physical or emotional, is cheating.

Very well said. :thumb: