A Serious Question.

[linx]

I have a serious question I wanna ask some of you people and I want some real serious answers. When you have known someone for a long time and you hang around them alot, you would think you know them pretty well right? The way they act, the way they think and all that type of shit? Well what if you are the type of person that thinks alot differently than others and you look at things and react alot differently ..yet nobody you know actually knows and understands you like you want them to? Rather then trying to actually understand why you do things the way you do, they will make fun or joke around or whatever.

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I'll even give an example. Alright, lets say there's a situation with a girl. You don't have a job and you are the type of person that always thinks ahead about things to avoid bullshit situations you don't want to deal with. So naturally, you are picky with chicks and you won't bother with any unless you feel she is a good choice. So you feel your situation (the no job and you kinda feel you have nothing to offer at the moment) isn't that great AND you are the type of person that doesn't let things bother you so naturally it doesn't bother you whether or not you have a girl or whether you approach one. So again ..naturally, you don't do anything because you aren't comfortable enough with your own situation at the moment.

Now keep in mind, the people you hang around with don't really have any idea you think like this. They just don't see you with a chick and they think god knows what. You have the type of attitude where you don't care what others think (no matter who it is), but at the same time you really wished they knew and understood you alot more. You are a very quiet person so you might not be helping the situation much, but that's just how you are. Also keep in mind that this is just one example.

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That might sound a little complicated, but I tried to explain it as best as I could. I'm not really looking for suggestions or anything, i'm just wondering if anyone has/had the same (I wouldn't call it a problem) situation at any time in their life. Basically if anyone can relate.


Real talk.

 

[keco52]

I would say I have probably been in that situation. I know I don't think like other ppl. I get told this on a daily basis. I'm crazy because I think differently and because I don't get embarrassed or care what ppl think. I'm not sure what you wanted feedback on but I would say just because you don't have a job doesn't mean you don't have anything to offer.

 

[devils_advok8]

It all comes down to this, how long have you known him/them for, and how well do they know you.I can relate.I act different infront of most people I know.Some think I'm crazy, some think I'm too nice, some think I'm an asshole,etc.Like when, let's say, my name is mentioned, they'd say "Ramzi is so___", the other would go wtf, he's like the total opposite.I know alot of peple, but only a couple of people know me well; they actually know me too well, that I swear at times they can read my mind and know my next step.
But what I'm getting to, is, I got 3 best friends, one of them has got this mixed view about me and he doesnt know me too well enough in my eyes.The other two are the ones I mentioned above.We've been best friends for 4 years with one of them, and 3 with other.The last one got to know me real well and understand me just as much as he understands himself, since 5 months or so.
It takes time, man.Just get to surprise them more with stuff they didnt know about you, "expose" yourself more to them.Be who you are infront of them and relax.For you all you know you might not know them enough neither.

 

[Snowman]

Damm, I Thought I Wasnt The Only One.


Good Topic btw :thumb:


I Can Relate With Ya. I Too Havent Approached A Girl Yet, Because Im Not Comfortable With My Life Situation. Theres Nothing Wrong With Getting Your Priorites In Line First. Dont Just Jump Into The Situation, If you Do Then You'll Fuck Your Life Up.

I Got My Job Right Now, Its A Decent Paying Job. But If I Take That Next Jump in Life. Id Be Working For Nothing. I Too Wanna Better Myself Money Wise. (We All Do).


Believe Me I Think A Lot Different Than Other People. Quite Frankly Im Glad I Think Differently, If I Acted Like My Friends I Would Not be Happy. My Friends Act To Worldly. There Nice People to Work With, But In Life's Siutations I feel Sorry For Them. (There's Times When Im At Work an I Sit By Myself, Because Im Ashamed To Kick It With Them. (I Overhear Them talkin, "Whats Wrong With Him, Is He Too Good To Sit With Us") I Hear That But I Keep To Myself.


Theres been Plenty Of girls I Would Love To Talk To, But I dont Right Now. Because Of My Situation in Life (My Job, My Car).



Sorry That I Carried On Too Much. Just Go Live Life To the Fullest. Get A good Job a Nice Car. (Hell Put some Money Away Go Travel See This Big World We Live in) If You Can Do It Go 4 It. Your 20 Live a Good Life, Do Things See Things. The Time Will Come When You Settle Down With A Loved One, an Have Kids. (Dont Rush Into It. (It Will Come To You.)

 

[Outla Spirit]

never... fuck the bitch, see how will does it in hitch... 4 real homie