Do you get the respect you deserve to get?

#21
FlipMo, I know what you mean. One of my friends is always clowning around & for that people think he's a bit stupid, but if they actually bothered to approach him with a serious subject he could discuss it.
 
#22
ken said:
there's a thin line between confidence and arrogance. So sometimes it's easily mistaken.
However I think alot of it has to do with people wanting you to be a certain way so that they can bad-mouth you and feel as if they are not doing any wrong. It's like, if people get a bit of money then the way they say "Hi" is reason for others to label them arrogant. You get small talk like "damn do you see that, fool gets a bit of money and don't even say 'Hi' without being arrogant and pompous about it".
It all stems from pre-judging, although there is a scope for pre-judgment which is a safety mechanism, obviously physical apperance tells you alittle/ alot about the type of person, but some people just trust their judgment to be safety/fool proof. Do I get the respect that I deserve? Well I don't think that I am owed respect unconditionally, I wuld have to earn it, but for people to do a 180 and dis-respect me would be foolish on the other persons side.

"Small minds talk about people, average minds talk about events, great minds talk about ideas"
agreed.I think that without a lil bit of arrogance, people would just step over you.
 

Cown

Active Member
#23
It depends, usually when I meet new people I keep my distance and let them slowly show their character first so that I can see what kind of persons they are, after that I can pretty much do what I want. I can make people think what I want them to think so I always get the respect I want from people, but changing it afterwards is very difficult, because they don’t know what to believe, but I don’t seek respect. Only respect I care for is that of my friends and family, the rest can just suck me sideways, cuz I really don’t give a shit what people think about me.
 

Sebastian

Well-Known Member
#24
Cown said:
It depends, usually when I meet new people I keep my distance and let them slowly show their character first so that I can see what kind of persons they are, after that I can pretty much do what I want. I can make people think what I want them to think so I always get the respect I want from people, but changing it afterwards is very difficult, because they don’t know what to believe, but I don’t seek respect. Only respect I care for is that of my friends and family, the rest can just suck me sideways, cuz I really don’t give a shit what people think about me.
does it really not matter? i mean u can not make it right for everyone, sure. but lets say someone made up a story which is totally wrong and this story made u look like u are a bad person. and everybody in school knows this story...so you go to school everyday knowing that all the other people around you think u are bad, an ass whatever. does it not bother u just a lil bit? u know this story is so absurd, u know it..but all the other guys dont. no problem at all?
 

Cown

Active Member
#27
Hurts said:
no problem at all man Cown is the only homo i accept in my crowd...
Love you to lol

beReal said:
does it really not matter? i mean u can not make it right for everyone, sure. but lets say someone made up a story which is totally wrong and this story made u look like u are a bad person. and everybody in school knows this story...so you go to school everyday knowing that all the other people around you think u are bad, an ass whatever. does it not bother u just a lil bit? u know this story is so absurd, u know it..but all the other guys dont. no problem at all?
If that happened I would handle the problem with the person who started this issue and make him end it for me...
 
#28
i gots tha repsect of ma ppl...i reckon i gots tha respect i deserve if not more. but aint easy to get it, i worked hard for tha reputation n respect i have...but i know that those ppl whose repsect i dont have and those who dont approve of ma reputation paint a nasty picture of me.
 
#29
people think i am a down right burn out and give me zero respect what so ever. I get that alot.

I speak kinda of slow, and my eyes are always half shut, but i was born that way. and i can just tell by the way people speak to me and look at me, that they think i am a moron.....

These types of things rarely bother me. One, because if a person is that judgemental n e way, fuck em, i dont wanna be around em n e way and i could never be a friend with some one that is that judges so much.

There are those certain people who disrespct me and i simply cant deal with them and then my top pops off and they get a piece of my mind. these types of people are usually customers that comethrough my place of work and think they know everything, then when i try to explain the proper way to do things, they tell me im wrong, and yet they have no knowledge of what they are doing, and i am the one that works there. makes a lot of sense.... but oh well..

i try not to let things get to me because its only going to make things worse, even if i let out a lil steam
 

S O F I

Administrator
Staff member
#30
beReal said:
as the title says, do you get the respect you think you deserve to get?

does your view, how you see yourself differ from what a lot of people think about you? does it bother you or dont you care about it?


i often hear people say "this guy is a bit arrogant". but i dont think im arrogant at all. they think im arrogant because i dont talk with a lot of people. and i dont see nothing wrong with it. i dont expect something constructive from most people (and i dont share their humor) so i stay out of most conversations...


thats just on example but all in all i dont think i get the respect i deserve to get. at least not from the majority.
Although this post is 3 lightyears old, I'll ask you something. Why do you think you deserve respect? If you're not arrogant, does that mean you deserve respect for not being arrogant?
 
#31
S O F I S T I K said:
Although this post is 3 lightyears old, I'll ask you something. Why do you think you deserve respect? If you're not arrogant, does that mean you deserve respect for not being arrogant?
I think just in general society respects a person who is Humble over a person who is Arrogant/Cocky
 

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