Do you get the respect you deserve to get?

[Sebastian]

as the title says, do you get the respect you think you deserve to get?

does your view, how you see yourself differ from what a lot of people think about you? does it bother you or dont you care about it?


i often hear people say "this guy is a bit arrogant". but i dont think im arrogant at all. they think im arrogant because i dont talk with a lot of people. and i dont see nothing wrong with it. i dont expect something constructive from most people (and i dont share their humor) so i stay out of most conversations...


thats just on example but all in all i dont think i get the respect i deserve to get. at least not from the majority.

 

[Hurts]

LOL yeah ppl think im stupid but im far from stupid

 

[Diaz]

I dont get respect when i post my amplified clips and the majority of the people jump to conclusions and say it's fake. :thumb:

 

[not really ken]

there's a thin line between confidence and arrogance. So sometimes it's easily mistaken.
However I think alot of it has to do with people wanting you to be a certain way so that they can bad-mouth you and feel as if they are not doing any wrong. It's like, if people get a bit of money then the way they say "Hi" is reason for others to label them arrogant. You get small talk like "damn do you see that, fool gets a bit of money and don't even say 'Hi' without being arrogant and pompous about it".
It all stems from pre-judging, although there is a scope for pre-judgment which is a safety mechanism, obviously physical apperance tells you alittle/ alot about the type of person, but some people just trust their judgment to be safety/fool proof. Do I get the respect that I deserve? Well I don't think that I am owed respect unconditionally, I wuld have to earn it, but for people to do a 180 and dis-respect me would be foolish on the other persons side.

"Small minds talk about people, average minds talk about events, great minds talk about ideas"

 

[ElitePete4k]

Diaz , thanks for posting those clips. I probably speak for many others here at the board as well. I appreciate new info anytime. Thx and keep up the good work. My close friends are pac fans and enjoy these clips like I do. -Pete

 

[CalcuoCuchicheo]

beReal, I can see similarities with myself here. I don't enagage in conversations with people I don't like/don't care for & it's usually that their humour is as is petty as their conversation topic.

People also say I'm arrogant because I have opinions on everything & am not afraid to speak my mind & as, when I have knowledge of something I unload it. (which, not to prove these people's point for them, but I have a good general knowledge, which becomes an amazing general knowledge when in the company of the average person). Basically, I refuse to dumb down so that others will holla.

As for what ken said, yeah there's a thin line between confidence & arrogance & that's something I can't get over. I'm by nature quite a shy person but I have full confidence in my knowledge & ability to wear someone down when I reel it off.

So even though I talk very little to most people, if they start discussing something that I feel is serious (politics, history, all the WoW shit) my shyness is overcome with my passion & zest to educate & be educated. As I've said, my opinionated status means I regularly 'go off on one', I'm actually well known for it. So some see me as arrogant but my closer friends know that I'm actually shy & find it quite amusing when I fly up out of my shell all guns blazing (kinda like the Incredible Hulk).

In conclusion, those who know me well, give me full respect for my talents, whereas as those who don't usually regard me as quiet or arrogant, ironic eh?

Sorry, I know I'm going on (this is one of those subjects I feel like discussing), but a perfect example is something that once happened at school. After 5 years of being in the same year as me, this one girl still didn't know my name. The main reason for this was that while I was in all credit classes, she was in foundation classes so with me being far from outlandish our paths rarely crossed. & even on the few occasions our paths had crossed, I never spoke to her as I had no interest in what she was talking about in her conversations & I'm pretty sure she had no interest, or idea, what I was talking in my conversations. (was probably talking about Che, Rwanda, religion or some shit, while she was talking about things like make-up)

 

[Kareem]

no cause theres too many assholes on here with too much time on their hands and think their the "big man" cause they have 4,000 posts but once they leave thier computer screen they walk down the street getting rocks thrown at em.

 

[Sebastian]

beReal, I can see similarities with myself here. I don't enagage in conversations with people I don't like/don't care for & it's usually that their humour is as is petty as their conversation topic.

People also say I'm arrogant because I have opinions on everything & am not afraid to speak my mind & as, when I have knowledge of something I unload it. (which, not to prove these people's point for them, but I have a good general knowledge, which becomes an amazing general knowledge when in the company of the average person). Basically, I refuse to dumb down so that others will holla.

As for what ken said, yeah there's a thin line between confidence & arrogance & that's something I can't get over. I'm by nature quite a shy person but I have full confidence in my knowledge & ability to wear someone down when I reel it off.

So even though I talk very little to most people, if they start discussing something that I feel is serious (politics, history, all the WoW shit) my shyness is overcome with my passion & zest to educate & be educated. As I've said, my opinionated status means I regularly 'go off on one', I'm actually well known for it. So some see me as arrogant but my closer friends know that I'm actually shy & find it quite amusing when I fly up out of my shell all guns blazing (kinda like the Incredible Hulk).

In conclusion, those who know me well, give me full respect for my talents, whereas as those who don't usually regard me as quiet or arrogant, ironic eh?

thats exactly what i am thinking. thx for replying :thumb:

 

[haunted]

People always used to think i was cocky and i thought i was better than everyone else in middle school because i never talked to anyone.

 

[CalcuoCuchicheo]

Although I may be contradicting my earlier post, could someone breakdown how the American education system works, like in Scotland;

You may go to nursery(kindergarten) when you're 3 or 4

4 or 5 you start Primary School, where you will be for 7 years, through Primary 1-7

You then go to Secondary School, at 11 or 12, where you are required to stay for 4 years, after which you may leave as long as you're 16, & there is the option of attending for 2 more years.

Then you leave, go to college or university etc....

 

[EDouble]

bereal im the same way

 

[jaimie.uk fan]

People looking for respect often do no deserve it .

EARN RESPECT !!!

Judge a person not for what he does for him / her self , but for
what they do for others .

 

[CalcuoCuchicheo]

People looking for respect often do no deserve it .

EARN RESPECT !!!

Is this just a general comment?

Because if you're replying directly to beReal, well, he ain't looking for respect he's just saying he deserves it.

And everyone deserves a basic level of respect unless you've done something really fucked up, in which case that basic right is taken away from you.

Otherwise, yeah you have to earn it but some people believe that they've done enough to earn it & still don't receive it. Not really talking about myself here but what about people who've worked in shit jobs all their life just to feed their kids & they still get no respect because they ain't got this or they ain't got that. They earned it but don't receive it.

 

[Steph]

i get the respect i deserve. people see me as a happy person who talks like an older person (people always go for advice to me), but my true friends know im definetly NOT a happy person, and it may seem that i act older, but im real fun to hang with once u get 2 kno me.

 

[Flipmo]

I understand ya. I feel the same way at times.

I goof around alot, I have to, it's just me. Sometimes, ppl could think I'm dumb cause of that, but if they only knew the knowledge I have.

You know how Dave Chappelle once said. Ppl just want him to do funny shit, nothing serious just cause society views him as a goof cause of his show, but in reality, he's a very polically oriented intellectual guy. I'm like that.

 

[TecK NeeX]

trying to get respect is difficult. In fact, the harder you try to get respect the more it eludes you. It's one of those things in life where the harder you try the more likely you are to fail. is just the way it is. but that shouldnt be discouraging, there are things one can do to gain the respect and admiration of others that one deserves. but in order to do that, you can't concentrate on "getting respect." rather you concentrate on the solution, behind every man/woman who refuses to give/show you the respect you deserve theres always that one who will not too far behind.

'Respect cannot be learned, purchased or acquired, it can only be earned'

 

[jaimie.uk fan]

Is this just a general comment?

Because if you're replying directly to beReal, well, he ain't looking for respect he's just saying he deserves it.

JUST A GENERAL COMMENT .

 

[Silleone]

i dont see how u can "earn" it, if youve been a joker around a group of people and u clown each other, u cant just turn round and be all serious, then u lose respect becuz your acting out of character.

if someone aint gonna respect u becuz u clown,make jokes, or they call u immature and shit becuz u like movies with humour then they can FUCK off.

the only way u can get respect is to be certain ways, for example, with all my friends, i adapt, for example, i got a friend that talks bout politics and shit, so when im around him i talk bout politics,i got a friend that just plays video games and just makes jokes, so when im around him i just play games and joke, when im around a group, thats probly when my real personality comes out becuz then i got to adapt to a group, eg, if were all playing a game, i'll laugh and do funny shit but at the same time be generous when i brutaly humilate them at tekken,mortal kombat,virtua fighter,wrestling games, i bet i could beat anybody here, IM THAT DAMN GOOD.

 

[not really ken]

There was a father and son travelling home from business.They had to travel thorugh a bunch of villages . (OK you get it, its a third world country type of scene). So as they're walking they see a donkey. The owner is selling the donkey for next to nothing, they ponceon the oppurtunity.
As they travel, the father and son are both walking with donkey making tracks right behind. The first village they pass through, they are surprised by the unfriendliness. The eople there jeer and mock them because they say that why don't one of the ride the dokey and the other walk. This would make more sense as that way both of the don't have to tire themselves from walking.
When they entered the next village the son was riding the donkey and the father was walking. When the people of this village seen this situation they began to mock the father. They said that the son should let his father ride the donkey as a sign of respect. They began to talk amonsgt each other how this son had no respect for his father and is putting his own comfort ahead of his fathers.
As they continued to travel and they entered the next village on their journey home, the father was riding the donkey and the son was walking. This was in reply to th mocking they had suffered in the last village. However when they entered this village the people mocked. They were jeering ad saying tht the father wasn't a significantly old man and should let his son ride the donkey as a form of love to his son, they mocked that the father was unloving and was selfish, putting his own comfort ahead of the sons.
Hearing this, the father and son both rode the donkey into the next village. The father was assured that there would be no issues now, as they were both riding the donkey. However when they entered the village the people mocked and jeered. They shouted cruelty, and accused the father and son of having no compassion for animals. The people voiced their dislike of this cruelty.
The father at this point was seething and left the donkey beside a river. He was having none of it. Entering another village they stopped by to buy some food. During conversation, the father told about how they are travelling from so and so place to home. It was still a long journey remaining so the shop keeper in a patronising tone mocked " Why don't you just buy a donkey to aid your travel"?

The shopkeeper was duly strangled to death!!!

The people are never happy. They don't want to give you due respect as it would mean that the person they respect has been elevated to a higher status than themselves. Also it is nature of man to always look at the negative aspects and judge for the worse.
People want to keep up with the Joneses, not let the Joneses get ahead.

 

[The.Menace]

No I don't but these days I try to free me from that. I do what I do for the good of the people, if I get respect for it should be the point.......it's about the action u know, that is the way I try to think and hopfully one day, I'll live it.