Anxiety of death has its basis in a person's unwillingness to be content with life and in his anxious craving for distinction by way of comparison. Look at most of the replies in here:
"when i start my own family and my children are successful i'll be content..."
"I am not content with death because I have not achieved monetary gain, my family is not happy, and my country is not in a good state."
"I want to achieve my career, have a family and live life to the fullest...
"I haven't accomplished everything I want to yet..."
Craving for distinction by way of comparison.
Well, where did you get these standards of accomplishment or achievement? From your inner being? Or from the world? A lot of people buy into the American Dream, even if they don't live in America. They believe that happiness is external and they want materialistic success. Or they want a "family" because they've been conditioned to think that's what they should have to have a successful life.
As a child growing up in a small town, I remember watching the old men sitting around and whittling away. They wouldn't carve anything in particular and they wouldn't say fifteen words a day. There was a sense of contentment, though, a feeling of comaraderie. They had an idea of what life was about, why they were alive, and what they wanted to do with their lives. They were doing it. They knew how to just be. The key is to appreciate being alive.
Today this scene is hard to find in our society. Most ppl rush frenetically from task to task. They communicate superficially and then wonder why nobody understands their essential needs.
Think of all the things that you consider essential to have a successful or happy life. Are they really? Do you look at what you don't have and think that acquiring those things will make you happy? Does thinking about these things you don't have cause you stress? Do you want a "successful" lifestyle if it means giving up a happier way of life?
You should be content to just be alive and then you'll always be ready for death.
"when i start my own family and my children are successful i'll be content..."
"I am not content with death because I have not achieved monetary gain, my family is not happy, and my country is not in a good state."
"I want to achieve my career, have a family and live life to the fullest...
"I haven't accomplished everything I want to yet..."
Craving for distinction by way of comparison.
Well, where did you get these standards of accomplishment or achievement? From your inner being? Or from the world? A lot of people buy into the American Dream, even if they don't live in America. They believe that happiness is external and they want materialistic success. Or they want a "family" because they've been conditioned to think that's what they should have to have a successful life.
As a child growing up in a small town, I remember watching the old men sitting around and whittling away. They wouldn't carve anything in particular and they wouldn't say fifteen words a day. There was a sense of contentment, though, a feeling of comaraderie. They had an idea of what life was about, why they were alive, and what they wanted to do with their lives. They were doing it. They knew how to just be. The key is to appreciate being alive.
Today this scene is hard to find in our society. Most ppl rush frenetically from task to task. They communicate superficially and then wonder why nobody understands their essential needs.
Think of all the things that you consider essential to have a successful or happy life. Are they really? Do you look at what you don't have and think that acquiring those things will make you happy? Does thinking about these things you don't have cause you stress? Do you want a "successful" lifestyle if it means giving up a happier way of life?
You should be content to just be alive and then you'll always be ready for death.
I've lost several people around me too young, so yeah, I still stand by what I said, to die without having a chance to achieve your goals, seems to me, unfair. They meant shit to me, just as I would hope I mean shit to others.
