Well, I for one think you are completely off base. The ban has been implemented a few years in Norway so maybe my opinion is full of bias, but I used to think this to begin with.
Then, thinking about it, I realized that a person who doesn't smoke cigarettes but is exposed to second-hand smoke on a frequent basis has a substantially higher chance of developing illnesses that are fatal at an earlier than average age. You just made a hypocrite out of yourself. You want her to respect your opinion that the ban is stupid and that you are "standing like 3 meters from her, wtf", and at the same time, you call her stupid and use her obesity against her. I bet on a subconscious level you may even have thought less of her for being fat, shown by your obvious hatred towards people who like pies lol.
And you are a grown man now. You didn't have to stand RIGHT outside the bus stop. Cause then you make it into a stupid thing, like, okay another 20 centimeters and it's illegal. You are fucking up the whole purpose of the ban, which is that smokers have themselves to blame for their habit and they should walk the walk, not the random person who doesn't smoke. When I go outside to smoke at work, I don't just stand by the entrance, I actually move several meters away and stand somewhere where people don't pass by. I do this out of respect, because when there's a new rule that people need to become accustomed to and understand, you need to be principal.
And when someone says "I reserve the right to smoke" they really just mean "I don't have what it takes to quit". Be that strength, emotions or will.
You are the one who is off base! (said in Jay from Jay & Silent Bob voice)
I don't want her to respect my opinion that the ban is stupid. I could care less if she thinks its a great idea and jumps for joy. The point is, she was insinuating that I was breaking the law. Which I wasn't.
The fat/obsesity/pies thing, don't take it so seriously dude. I have no hatred towards people who eat pies, where the fuck did that come from? I didn't even notice her, and would not have done, if she had not tried to call me out on that bullshit.
You are reading into things that aren't there. On a subconscious level I think less of her for being fat? Um, how about
NOT AT ALL. Preach, I'm starting to worry about you man. You are ridiculously paranoid, it's honestly quite worrying. You should chill on the skunk dude, I think it's frying your brain slightly. Learn to take things at face value - most of the time, things really are as simple as they appear to be. That's the best advice I can give you man.
I did have to stand right outside the bus stop, because I could either stand there, or stand in the middle of the road. It was nowhere near the actual entrance to the bus stop, which was on the other side (it has like see through plastic so you can see inside). Basically it's the equivalent of smoking outside a restaurant and someone pointing through the window of the restaurant to a no smoking sign inside and saying it. No difference.
I was standing nowhere near where anyone would have to walk past.
And I disagree with your last comment. I have never said I reserve the right to smoke. And I could quit right this second if I wanted to. I have before, for months at a time. I smoke because I enjoy it, not because I'm addicted, I'm not. That's the difference - most people I know that smoke and they say they're addicted and want to quit but can't or whatever, they smoke like a pack a day. I can't even fathom smoking that much, I smoke on average, 2 cigarettes a day.
Preach....please chill out on the weed buddy. Go and see a shrink if you need to. Every post you make it's becoming clearer that you're turning into some kind of light-sensitive emo who sits in front of his computer smoking weed all day and over analysing every situation, thinking way too much about everything. You're coming across as really insecure man, I hate to say it. I think you need some sober reflection time and some self-esteem boosting. It's really obvious to anyone reading most of your posts. I think this situation with this girl has thrown you for a loop as well.....you are at that self-deprecating point where you think too much about your own flaws and just accept them for what they are. I've seen you do it and say things like that numerous times now. Think positively, change yoursef for the better, you need to learn how to be assertive and you need some self confidence, that's all it is man.
I've always said, you should live your life as if there's Hollywood camera following you all the time. Act like you're the hottest, greatest guy in the world (you can do this without coming off as an asshole, it's about balance).
Put yourself across one way - and people will treat you that way. It's that simple. That's exactly why you're in the situation that you are with this chick where you are well and truly stuck in the friend zone.
