So i was sittin here feelin sorry for myself cause i got more issues goin when i started to think is it really fair to feel depressed and sad when we are still kinda so lucky i mean like even though i got some bad stuff goin on my ass wernt in no tsunami or katrina i mean really i could be in a way worse situation right now and like sometimes it makes it worse cause i feel down but then i feel worse for knowin i aint in da worst of situations, but ya know we cant help our feelins ya know what im sayin if we feel down we feel down i try to keep thinkin positive in my worst of situations but i still end up feelin down, plus im one of them niggaz that hardly smiles so alot people think i got problems with them its jus me though thats how i stay, i think we sometimes think to much of the bad and forget the good anyways do some of you's think that you take life for granted sometimes even if we are goin through some bad situations? discuss...
Takin Life For Granted
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^i use to know people that thought my family was rich as hell and my parents had tons of money. but they didnt and still dont. some people just think that others are rich when they really are not. they just dont know the situation or the facts. so is he really rich?
i feel ya man. i'm sort of the same way. not so much anymore. but i dont smile that much either and some poeple stray away from me or think differently about me because of it. but when i get to feel that i was i just but on some good music. devin the dudes anythang (or is it anything) hits it dead on for me usualy.
i feel ya man. i'm sort of the same way. not so much anymore. but i dont smile that much either and some poeple stray away from me or think differently about me because of it. but when i get to feel that i was i just but on some good music. devin the dudes anythang (or is it anything) hits it dead on for me usualy.
When I find myself in those situations, I've concluded that realizing people have it worse and that it could get worse doesn't help my situation. Therefore, I don't think about it. I too, don't smile much when I'm around people other than my friends, and therefore people think I'm conceited and snobby. They have no clue.
Why wouldn't it be fair? The advantages you might have over other people don't necessarily equal happiness. As long as you don't take your advantages for granted I don't see a problem with feeling bad for the negative aspects of your life. The fact that someone else has problems that might be worse doesn't change that there's a problem in your life. It's not like you're saying "my life is worse than everyone elses".
Happiness is the only thing that matters anyway, the problem might be 'worse' but it may not affect the person as much. Who would you rather be? A rich person who hates their life or a poor person who loves their life? People often measure a good life by the immediate things like finances.
Either way, I can't cheer myself up by thinking happy/positive thoughts that don't really mean anything.
Happiness is the only thing that matters anyway, the problem might be 'worse' but it may not affect the person as much. Who would you rather be? A rich person who hates their life or a poor person who loves their life? People often measure a good life by the immediate things like finances.
Either way, I can't cheer myself up by thinking happy/positive thoughts that don't really mean anything.
its human natural to feel bad bout urself at times. No matter wut, ur gunna hav problems, some problems harder than others, but nonetheless, u will always hav problems. If u realise this, then it will be easier to feel better, knowing that everyone feels similar. Even in the worst of times u gotta stay positive, then ur problems will go away faster
I like that. Personally I think everyone takes life for granted, no one is ever perfectlly satified. People are sad because of hurricance/tsunami, but those are acts of nature. You can't do anything to stop it, so be happy your alive and able to help those who survived. If you go ahead and compare that your in a good situation cuz you weren't in the hurricane and feel sorry for them, fuck that, if you feel so sorry for them don't just say one thing do it. Like I know some people that compare themselves to others, like "he has a nice car I, man I wish I was a rich mo fo" "God I wish i'd look like that". By doing that you're just making things worse for youself which is taking life for granted. Life is a game you just gotta adapt yourself to the situation(s) or make them better. Like Amerikaz said, you have your own life in your hands. You decide for youself, so being depressed/regret after you do something is crap. But we are humans, so by nature we're not perfect.
First, good post. Now, the threadmaker asked, "Is it fair?" and I think that question is worth thinking about in a different way. Is it fair to you no matter what your situation is to feel sorry for yourself or feel down about your problems? Is it fair to you to focus on what's wrong with your life rather than on what's right?
If you start every day saying, "I'm going to lose because of this problem or limitation," what kind of a day is that?
But don't try to start with happy, positive thoughts. See, I don't believe in optimism. I believe in optimal behavior. That's a different thing. If you behave every day of your life to the top of your genetics, what can you do? Test it. Find out? You don't know what you can do. You haven't done it yet. So that's optimal behavior. And when you behave that way you have a feeling of optimism. And when you behave that way you will more likely have breakthroughs in your problems. You see, there's a difference. Not to be optimistic, but to behave optimally. At the top of your lungs shout and listen to the echoes.
When I face a major conflict--say, financially or interpersonal--rather than give in to feelings of despair or hopelessness, I visualize a long road with a beautiful, beaming, healing light at the end. This is not a God image for me but an image that reminds me that the crisis is a part of my spiritual journey. As I travel this path, I notice the dragons and demons of my existence all around me. But rather than focus on them and be consumed by hopelessness and despair, I concentrate on the heroic qualities that will give me strength to overcome my problems. I think about the virtues that have aided me in the past and present and that will support me in the future.
When you pay attention to your best qualities, you will find answers to your problems. When you concentrate on the problem alone, you will remain in crisis.
If you start every day saying, "I'm going to lose because of this problem or limitation," what kind of a day is that?
But don't try to start with happy, positive thoughts. See, I don't believe in optimism. I believe in optimal behavior. That's a different thing. If you behave every day of your life to the top of your genetics, what can you do? Test it. Find out? You don't know what you can do. You haven't done it yet. So that's optimal behavior. And when you behave that way you have a feeling of optimism. And when you behave that way you will more likely have breakthroughs in your problems. You see, there's a difference. Not to be optimistic, but to behave optimally. At the top of your lungs shout and listen to the echoes.
When I face a major conflict--say, financially or interpersonal--rather than give in to feelings of despair or hopelessness, I visualize a long road with a beautiful, beaming, healing light at the end. This is not a God image for me but an image that reminds me that the crisis is a part of my spiritual journey. As I travel this path, I notice the dragons and demons of my existence all around me. But rather than focus on them and be consumed by hopelessness and despair, I concentrate on the heroic qualities that will give me strength to overcome my problems. I think about the virtues that have aided me in the past and present and that will support me in the future.
When you pay attention to your best qualities, you will find answers to your problems. When you concentrate on the problem alone, you will remain in crisis.
I agree. Everybody feels down sometimes, sure - yet I dont think that is an excuse to ignore that in a comparative context, what we perceive as our own struggles are a mere drop in the ocean compared to what others face. It often appears to me that people are egotistical, self centred and blinded by their own sadness to a point where they cant see that they are endowed with many advantages. As for Chronic's post - advantages dont have to mean happiness, that is not the point. But that what people perceive as being a problem, or the scale of their importance is exaggerated because of a failure to appreciate a much worse state of being. So rather than being absorbed by self pity, in not taking life for granted people can see the scale of their problems in a different light and perhaps stimulate an impetus to overcome it.
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