Self-Actualization.

S O F I

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#1
Path to happiness and fulfillment in life. Agree/disagree?

More important than marriage/family? Agree/disagree?
 

Jurhum

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#2
lol Health class? :p

ok, 1. Agree
second, agree too.. once u find yourself then you can have a good marriage and a happy family..
 

Duke

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#5
Amara said:
I'd see marriage/family as a part of happiness and fulfillment in life.... not as seperate or adversarial components.
:thumb:

Fulfillment in life can from whatever source. If self actualizition does that, so the better for you. But it doesn't put them on opposite ends of the spectrum.
 

S O F I

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#7
Amara said:
I'd see marriage/family as a part of happiness and fulfillment in life.... not as seperate or adversarial components.

I did not intend to make them seem that way. I just asked whether self-actualization gives you fulfillment and happiness in life. Another question that can derive from this is, "Is marriage and raising a family neccessary for happiness and fulfillment in life?" But, that's another thread.

As you know, the term "self-actualization" deals with finding out who you are as a person, strenghts and weaknesses, your potential, and working off it, in a nut-shell. I asked whether that is more important than marriage and raising a family.

Now, one can say that being a father/mother is the person who they truly are and that's self-actualization to them, but...whatever.


As for Jurhum, no, not this time, lol. It just came across my mind.
 
#8
As you know, the term "self-actualization" deals with finding out who you are as a person, strenghts and weaknesses, your potential, and working off it, in a nut-shell. I asked whether that is more important than marriage and raising a family.
It's obvious they're both contradicting, one concentrating on yourself and the other on another. But anyways, self-actualization is more important. What an accomplishment it would be to actually know yourself. There is only one result of it, a peace of mind and fulfillment. There's alot to it.

Unfortunately, marriage and a family on the other hand, is not gauranteed happiness, never is. There are many factors governing why it would not be. But on the other hand, I say if you have not experienced the unhappiness during your relationship, then don't get married, because during your marriage its going to be alot worser when you do get that unhappiness. I say this because the ups/downs during the girl/boyfriend phase will help you recieve the actualization of the marriage life with that person. The actualization should span between you and your partner with the qualities in the quote. And once you do recieve the actualization that you can spend the rest of my life with that person, you would be content with the unpredictable.

So, yes, self-actualization can lead to a happy marriage but it must be shared between you and your partner.
 
#10
The first one, happiness, is the number one thing. The rest will be complimetary, because you can still be happy in most situations, it's just a matter of being at peace mentally. So after you have that you can spread love and have a family, but if you have a family without having inner peace then you will be unhappy until you get it. Some people cannot have anything until they find inner peace, because they will be sad pretty much with everything. But of course when you have inner peace, you must stay dependent on nothing but that, so don't live for wealth or material or your family because they must live for themselves.

~peace~
 

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